So, I was recently diagnosed as ADD. Not a big surprise to my wife and my co-workers. For me, I took it in stride. How would I describe myself? I am active, my mind is very busy, I move from task to task, I am sometimes disorganized, I have a lot of nervous energy, I have trouble focusing for long periods of time, and my short term memory is horrible. Long term memory isn't a problem and I can remember minute details of things that some people would just forget. There are other things that go along with this as well which I don't need to get into now. So with all that and my wife knowing this, why does she get so mad at me for it and often?
What's the solution?
I have seizures and take medication as a result. My wife feels that I should just take medication and that I am just resistant and refuse to get help. I've tried to explain to her that me going to a therapist is a start but she doesn't see it. Basically to her medication is the only answer. So is medication the answer? I'd rather look at other skills for coping before medication. I see medication as the last resort if nothing else can work. For my seizures, I have to take medication because I will have seizures if I don't. Let's see if through therapy that coping skills can work.
So is it fair to get mad at someone who has ADD?
Would it be ok to tell someone who has depression to 'not be so sad' or 'get over it and get out of bed?' Of course not! Then is it ok to tell someone who has ADD to 'focus' and then get mad if they can't or if they forget some information? I leave it at that.