So, I ask a question to someone and get a totally unexpected and sort of mean response. So then I ask, "did you hear a tone in my voice with that question?" I then get the response that I was putting the blame of that question on the other person. At this point I was getting confused. No malice meant, no malice intended. The person then told me something not so nice. I don't think my question would ever elicit such a response and it makes me want to do one of two things. First, I want to react with anger. No, that the right response. Second, I want to become quiet and just not say anything so that nothing can be misinterpreted. I don't have an option 'C' at this point. I am spending a lot of time reflecting about this.